‘You’re uneducated’: Woman Kicks Out Mother-in-law After MIL Tells Her Her Son Isn’t Getting a ‘Real Dinner,’ Leading to Family Dispute

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    r/AITAH 2 days ago throwawayy8710 AITAH for calling my MIL uneducated about nutrition and kicking her out of my house after she criticized what I made my son for dinner?
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    So my husband and I have one 18 month old son, and I am pregnant with our second baby. We live in a major city, and his mother lives in a suburb 45 minutes north of us. Her doctor works out of a hospital located downtown in our city and my MIL will often stay over at our place after her appointments instead of driving back to her home as her
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    appointments usually end right around when rush hour begins. Yesterday was one of these days, she went to have some labs drawn at the hospital and then came over to our home when I was just about done cooking dinner. My husband was at the gym. I had a long day yesterday, I felt absolutely exhausted from
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    pregnancy and chasing my toddler around all day. We were running low on groceries with not a lot of dinner options, so I was planning to make a really easy dinner of spaghetti with frozen meatballs, but when I went in the kitchen to start cooking I realized that we were actually out of the meatballs I thought we still had. It was too late to go to the store to
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    get something else to make, my kid was already acting hungry and I was starving and exhausted. So I just thought well I guess we don't need to have protein with every single meal and made the pasta without meatballs.
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    When my MIL saw me putting my son in his seat and serving him his food, she said "Just pasta?" And I said "oh yeah I totally forgot I used up all our frozen meatballs until I was already cooking so it's a meatless dinner night!" And she said that she wished I would have texted her and she would have grabbed me
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    meatballs from the store on her way so that "her grandson and her grandbaby to be could have a real dinner."
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    This really irked me as his meal was a "real dinner" and it's not like I don't serve him protein. He had protein with breakfast and lunch yesterday. I also don't like how she referred to "her grand baby to be" getting a real meal as I'm pregnant and so it's obviously me who has to eat in order to nourish the baby- it's me that's not "getting a real meal"
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    according to her logic. It made me feel like she sees me as some kind of vessel and really made me mad.
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    I told her that maybes she's uneducated with how much protein humans actually need and there's nothing wrong with our dinner. She immediately got very upset that I "called her uneducated when she's "raised three boys and she knows what growing boys need to eat" and told me i should "try and plan harder next time"
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    This last comment sent me over the edge and I yelled at her to get out of my house if she's just all over my going to mothering abilities and that she needs to stop using our place as a home base in the city when she has her appointments if she's going to make comments like that.
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    She left in a huff, screaming about how she couldn't believe I was kicking her out "over some constructive criticism before she even got to spend time with her grandson" I told her I'm not looking for any type of criticism from her. She called my husband and said I went on a "hormone induced rage" and kicked her out
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    because I couldn't deal with being called out on not serving my son a proper dinner and said she wants to keep coming over after her appointments My husband wants both of us to apologize to each other to "make peace" but I told him I'm not some elementary schooler who's going to be forced to apologize
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    when I didn't do anything wrong just to make the issue go away. Now he's mad at me too and I'm wondering if I actually didn't do anything wrong AITAH?
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    Famous-Compose... 2d ago NTA.. The best parents in the world run out of meatballs sometimes. Your MIL sounds obnoxious.
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    greenflamingochad⚫ 2d ago NTA. You are pregnant with a toddler. The last thing you need is your MIL calling you lazy. She can get off her high horse about the spagetti.
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    CuriousPenguinSo... 2d ago Tell your husband that you will no longer be taking the easy way out to "keep the peace" as all that does is enable his mom's behavior.
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    From now on, boundaries will be enforced and consequences enabled. If they don't like it, maybe act right. NTA but your husband is straddling that line that his mom just long jumped over into AH territory.
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    | Ladyughsalot1 • 2d ago NTA Why couldn't she make herself useful and say "oh, let me get dinner for you"?
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    And yeah the whole "my grand babies" is gross. What about "well honey you're pregnant, I want you to have a real meal"? Still irksome but certainly not a barbed comment like she chose.

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